Let it Go to Your Head and Heart

There was a common saying when I was growing up, "Don't let it go to your head" or in other words, if you get a compliment, don't think you're better than you are, don't become conceited.  This is good advice for those who may have a tendency to think that they are superior to others.  Not so good, however, for those who are already self-critical.

I have been very self-critical of myself in the past.  I'm not sure if I was born with it or developed it over time and circumstances.  At times, I've gotten to the point where I ignore kind things people say and absorb deeply any perceived criticism, slight or correction. As I've become aware of this tendency, I've tried to accept a compliment graciously and believe it.  My Father in Heaven and my Savior love me, flaws and all.

In all the scriptures I've read about humility, not one teaches to berate ourselves.  The Savior teaches, "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself." (Matthew 19:19) In the very next verse the young ruler asks, "What lack I yet?"  (Matthew 19:20)   Self-examination is essential to self-improvement.  It is essential to love and to be kind and patient with ourselves while we strive to be like Him.