Tuesday, January 26, 2016

How to have your Best Birthday Ever!

When I was a child, birthdays were magical!  It didn't matter if it was mine or my friends, it was exciting! There was a party where we played games, a money cake (coins were cleaned, wrapped in tinfoil and baked into the cake) and presents. Getting older was so exciting.

I'm not exactly sure at around what age my excitement changed to dread but I found myself struggling each year my birthday came around. In a cultural that celebrates youth, every birthday takes us farther away from it. I have talked to people who try to ignore their birthday and treat it as just another day. 

Here's some ideas that have helped me look forward to my birthdays now.

  • I thank my Father in Heaven for another year to live on this earth with my family and friends.
  • Counting blessings, naming them one by one. I write them down, share them on social media or with those I love.
  • My dear friend, Lori decided to do an act of service on her birthday to demonstrate her gratitude for her blessings.
  • If I want to do a specific activity on my birthday, I plan it or tell my family about it. 
  • If I want a specific gift, I tell my family. *Win-Win*
On getting older, I've come to an age where I am feeling quite content as the candle count increases. I'm grateful for the youth I had, the lessons I've learned and I'm excited for the adventures ahead. I wouldn't want to go backwards when there is so much to look forward to.

There is Beauty All Around... in January!

January has gotten a bad rap for a long time and for some very good reasons.
  • There are no holidays where most everyone gets a day off
  •  Christmas celebrations are over.
  • Time to pay bills from those celebrations.
  • In many places it's cold, often times it feels like the coldest month of the year.
  • Nature is asleep.
  • It's dark....and the list could go on.
This January has felt different this year. I've been noticing the beauty around me. We've had some spectacular snow storms and the mountains where I live are completely covered.  I stepped out of church the other week to get something from my car and there was an ice fog that looked like a movie effect.  The sunrises and sunsets are breathtaking.  This morning, the sky was soft and light. I could see the moon and wisps of clouds underneath. Light from the street lamp was hitting just right to make it look pink.  It felt for a moment that I was in Paris. 

I encourage you as you go out today to try to find something beautiful. I hope you'll be pleasantly surprised.  

(These pictures are from my less than amazing cell phone camera and don't do the scenes justice but I hope they give you inspiration to find the beauty in January.)

  

Monday, January 25, 2016

Let it Go to Your Head and Heart

There was a common saying when I was growing up, "Don't let it go to your head" or in other words, if you get a compliment, don't think you're better than you are, don't become conceited.  This is good advice for those who may have a tendency to think that they are superior to others.  Not so good, however, for those who are already self-critical.

I have been very self-critical of myself in the past.  I'm not sure if I was born with it or developed it over time and circumstances.  At times, I've gotten to the point where I ignore kind things people say and absorb deeply any perceived criticism, slight or correction. As I've become aware of this tendency, I've tried to accept a compliment graciously and believe it.  My Father in Heaven and my Savior love me, flaws and all.

In all the scriptures I've read about humility, not one teaches to berate ourselves.  The Savior teaches, "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself." (Matthew 19:19) In the very next verse the young ruler asks, "What lack I yet?"  (Matthew 19:20)   Self-examination is essential to self-improvement.  It is essential to love and to be kind and patient with ourselves while we strive to be like Him.





Sunday, January 24, 2016

Casting Burdens

The Guide to the LDS Scriptures defines CONSECRATE as follows...
To dedicate, to make holy, or to become righteous. The law of consecration is a divine principle whereby men and women voluntarily dedicate their time, talents, and material wealth to the establishment and building up of God’s kingdom. 
I believe that the Lord asks us for even more. He wants us to share with him our joys and grief.  He not only wants us to share our temporal blessings, our time, etc.- He wants our whole hearts. When I give the Lord all my heartaches, worries, concerns and then ask Him to give back what my part is, this is a type of consecration.  I have found that as I give Him my stress and fears about my life situation, He lets me know what He would have me do, what my part is. I’m so grateful to Him. He is such a kind, loving, Father.

I believe that the Law of Consecration is part of the Atonement of Christ.  As we give Him all the good we can do and give Him all our sins, He takes our troubles, He washes away our sins and one day we will be given all that He has.

My beloved friend, Amber Sorensen shared this thought, 
“The Law of Consecration is still in effect because everything belongs to the Lord.  When we willing give Him all that we have, he can give us back what we need and more and makes up the difference if we’re short."

 The Parable of the Bicycle by Stephen G. Robinson illustrates this point beautifully...
I was sitting in a chair reading. My daughter, Sarah, who was seven years old at the time, came in and said, “Dad, can I have a bike? I’m the only kid on the block who doesn’t have one.”
Well, I didn’t have the money then for a bike, so I stalled her. I said, “Sure, Sarah.”
She said, “How? When?”
I said, “You save all your pennies, and soon you’ll have enough for a bike.” And she went away.
A couple of weeks later I was sitting in the same chair when I heard a “clink, clink” in Sarah’s bedroom. I asked, “Sarah, what are you doing?”
She came to me with a little jar, a slit cut in the lid, and a bunch of pennies in the bottom. She said, “You promised me that if I saved all my pennies, pretty soon I’d have enough for a bike. And, Daddy, I’ve saved every single one of them.”
My heart melted. My daughter was doing everything in her power to follow my instructions. I hadn’t actually lied to her. If she saved all of her pennies, she would eventually have enough for a bike, but by then she would want a car. I said, “Let’s go look at bikes.”
We went to every store in town. Finally we found it—the perfect bicycle. She was thrilled. Then she saw the price tag, and her face fell. She started to cry. “Oh, Dad, I’ll never have enough for a bicycle!”
So I said, “Sarah, how much do you have?”
She answered, “Sixty-one cents.”
“I’ll tell you what. You give me everything you’ve got and a hug and a kiss, and the bike is yours.” Then I drove home very slowly because she insisted on riding the bike home.
As I drove beside her, I thought of the atonement of Christ. We all desperately want the celestial kingdom. We want to be with our Father in Heaven. But no matter how hard we try, we come up short. At some point all of us must realize, “I can’t do this by myself. I need help.” Then it is that the Savior says, in effect, All right, you’re not perfect. But what can you do? Give me all you have, and I’ll do the rest.
He still requires our best effort. We must keep trying. But the good news is that having done all we can, it is enough. We may not be personally perfect yet, but because of our covenant with the Savior, we can rely on his perfection, and his perfection will get us through.
To read the full article, go to https://www.lds.org/ensign/1992/04/believing-christ?lang=eng

Hillary Weeks' song "Give Ye to Me" is one of my favorite songs that also explains this concept.


The Carpenter of Nazareth

The Carpenter of Nazareth
by George Blair
In Nazareth, the narrow road,
That tires the feet and steals the breath,
Passes the place where once abode
The Carpenter of Nazareth.

And up and down the dusty way
The village folk would often wend;
And on the bench, beside Him, lay
Their broken things for Him to mend.
 
The maiden with the doll she broke,
The woman with the broken chair,
The man with broken plough, or yoke,
Said, “Can you mend it, Carpenter?”
 
And each received the thing he sought,
In yoke, or plough, or chair, or doll;
The broken thing which each had brought
Returned again a perfect whole.
 
So, up the hill the long years through,
With heavy step and wistful eye,
The burdened souls their way pursue,
Uttering each the plaintive cry:
 
“O Carpenter of Nazareth,
This heart, that’s broken past repair,
This life, that’s shattered nigh to death,
Oh, can You mend them, Carpenter?”
 
And by His kind and ready hand,
His own sweet life is woven through
Our broken lives, until they stand
A New Creation—“all things new.”
 
“The shattered idols of my heart,
Desire, ambition, hope, and faith,
Mould Thou into the perfect part,
O, Carpenter of Nazareth!”

Gethsemane

Gethsemane ~ Ella Wheeler Wilcox

In golden youth when seems the earth
A Summer-land of singing mirth,
When souls are glad and hearts are light,
And not a shadow lurks in sight,
We do not know it, but there lies
Somewhere veiled under evening skies
A garden which we all must see --
The garden of Gethsemane.


With joyous steps we go our ways,
Love lends a halo to our days;
Light sorrows sail like clouds afar,
We laugh and say how strong we are.
We hurry on; and hurrying, go
Close to the border-land of woe,
That waits for you, and waits for me --
For ever waits Gethsemane.


Down shadowy lanes, across strange streams,
Bridged over by our broken dreams;
Behind the misty caps of years,
Beyond the great salt fount of tears,
The garden lies. Strive as you may,
You cannot miss it in your way.
All paths that have been, or shall be,
Pass somewhere through Gethsemane.


All those who journey, soon or late,
Must pass within the garden's gate;
Must kneel alone in darkness there,
And battle with some fierce despair.
God pity those who cannot say,
Not mine but thine, who only pray,
Let this cup pass, and cannot see
The purpose in Gethsemane.

Sunday, January 10, 2016

Traits of Treasured Friends

I have been blessed with family and friends that I consider family.  While interacting with people who have blessed my life immeasurably, I've discovered attributes that I try to emulate.
  1. "It's not my story to tell."  No matter what anyone shares, good news, bad news, heartache, worry or even just their shoe size...it is their story to tell.  
  2. "I don't need to know the end of the story." I had a friend that was going through some significant struggles. She was blessed that loved ones who had broken her heart, apologized and she was in the process of repairing the relationship. She told me that she knew I'd expect to hear what happened. I told her I didn't need to hear it unless she wanted to talk about it. I never heard the end of the story and that's just fine. It wasn't about the story, it was about being there for her.
  3. "Just need marching orders." Some people need to talk, others just need to be loved. I don't need to know why my help is needed or the specifics of the problem. I can help without knowing details. I can pray and ask Heavenly Father to bless my friend with exactly what is needed. 
  4. "Let them talk." We were blessed with two ears and one mouth. 
  5. "Celebrate their Joy." Blessings come to each of us at different times in our lives. I truly love someone when I am happy for them.
  6. "Be there when it matters." At some of the saddest times in my life, dear friends are quietly there, some in body, some in spirit, some through prayer.
  7. "Invite, don't announce." Offer suggestions or help, but respect their choice to accept it or not. 
  8. "Listen to understand."
    “A friend is one to whom one may pour out the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that gentle hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”
          ― George Eliot

Powerfully Meek


At church today, we discussed what it means to be meek. That brought to mind one of my favorite talks of all time. This talk was given by Elder Robert E. Wells, May 20, 1986 at a Brigham Young University Devotional. The talk is based on the Beatitudes that Christ taught on the Sermon on the Mount. Quoting Elder Wells...
"These declarations are not quiet philosophical stars in a summer night. Rather, the Beatitudes of Christ are lightning bolts and thunder claps of spiritual surprise!"
Here are his thoughts on meekness...
"Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth. (Matt. 5:5.) We don’t usually think of successful executives as meek; nor can we accept the idea of a “meek,” successful quarterback on a winning football team...In the minds of many, meek means being submissive, passive, retiring, placid. Their mental image of a meek person is that of a compliant “doormat” who is so timid and unassertive that he accomplishes nothing, seeks nothing, and contributes nothing to the world in which he lives. 
I was visiting a 100,000-acre ranch in Argentina, where more than a thousand head of beautiful horses were being raised. Some were for the gauchos, or cowboys, to ride; but most were thoroughbred polo ponies, trained and sold to people throughout the world.I asked the owner of the ranch if we could see a rodeo where the gauchos “broke” wild horses as our Western cowboys do.
He was aghast. “Not on this ranch, you won’t,” was his emphatic answer. “Although a polo pony has to be obedient, lightning fast, fearless, and superbly maneuverable, we would never ‘break’ a horse—we don’t want to break his spirit. We love our horses and work patiently with them until they are meek, or manso. Our manso horses are still full of fire and spirit, but they are obedient and well trained.” 
I can see a great spiritual application to the meaning of manso. The Savior didn’t mean for us to be “doormats”—he meant that we should be obedient and well trained. We can be strong, enthusiastic, talented, spirited, zealous, and still be “meek”—able to coexist in the success-oriented world in which we live.
Following Christ doesn't make us weak in any sense of the word. Christ makes us strong. 

The entire talk can be found here BYU Speeches~Christ Focused Beatitudes

Saturday, January 9, 2016

Unto the Heart

I love the teachings of Jesus Christ found in the scriptures and in the words of his servants. They bring me great joy, peace and hope.  I want to share the truths I've learned.  As a parent, teacher, friend, I have the power to invite those I love to come unto Christ. The Holy Ghost teaches truth, if we choose to open our hearts.

This concept was taught by Elder David A. Bednar...
"Nephi teaches us, “When a man speaketh by the power of the Holy Ghost the power of the Holy Ghost carrieth [the message] unto the hearts of the children of men” (2 Nephi 33:1). Please notice how the power of the Spirit carries the message unto but not necessarily into the heart. A teacher can explain, demonstrate, persuade, and testify, and do so with great spiritual power and effectiveness. Ultimately, however, the content of a message and the witness of the Holy Ghost penetrate into the heart only if a receiver allows them to enter. Learning by faith opens the pathway into the heart."  (For the complete talk, go to https://www.lds.org/ensign/2007/09/seek-learning-by-faith?lang=eng)
It really comes down to agency. I've heard it explained that each of us has a gate in front of our heart. There is only one key to our gate and we must choose to open that gate. No matter how much we'd like someone to accept the truths we cherish and the peace that it brings, they alone have the power to open their heart. 

When those we love choose paths that lead away from the teachings of Christ, it is wise to remember that they have a Savior and we are not Him. He is watching over them. The "Good Shepherd" knows His sheep and is watching over them.

Friday, January 8, 2016

Flip that Switch!

Getting ready for work this morning, I realized I needed something from the laundry room downstairs.  In a hurry, I figured I'd just run the down the stairs and not bother turning on the light above.  Instantaneously I had a number of thoughts, or as my dear friend Amber used to call it, "a ball of knowledge".  My first thought was, "How hard is it to turn a light switch on? It really doesn't take more than a second." I noticed that the staircase was still quite dark. By turning on the small light fixture, I could see perfectly. 
 
I thought about how reading scriptures daily (even one verse) and praying daily is very much like taking the time to turn on the light. The time it takes to flip a light switch is infinitesimal and yet the results are far reaching. The spiritual light that comes in to our daily lives from reaching out and obeying these commandments is incalculable.

Alma 37:6 ...Bsmall and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise.